Point of View

I am not going to say much. I am here to share a comment that I got on my last post. It is quite a long one but that is not the reason that I decided to put it as a post. You look at it and decide whether it should  have been here as a post or I should have left it as a comment. With no editing it goes...

"don't kno abt the person or relation but thing abt relations is if a person is not ready to sacrifice, then it turns out tht person is selfish for himself basically every1 is but to wht extent tht matter... there will b extremely selfish people ,selfless people, deceiving people, intelligent people list goes on and there are so many differences tht even after so much human population no two people are alike... so one has to look for some qualities and have to let go of other as its very difficult to find all the qualities in 1 person... its better if you cud love as many people as you can... respect every1... n should always remember tht all the emotions, relations, love, hate, anger is all there as long as there is life... it all ends once the life ends... one should kno its origin not just the paternal ones, as relation ends ones the body dies, but something lives, even after the body dies and from whtever source that power or soul comes, its final resting place is there, as without the originator of the source tht is God (there is very beautiful line in Guru Granth Sahib " jiyon jal mein aye jal ghatana, teon joyti sang jyot milana" it means they way waves are created from the ocean and they merge back into them in the same way souls or tht living power without form or colour or shape is created and will merge back into its source, tht is the final resting place (God)) everything else is small and not capable of fulfilling the persons needs.... actually people should live the life like(once i heard a beautiful example think might share it with you) this life is like a party the world is like a big home where there are so many guests who are invited specially to enjoy and have a good time without much restrictions where there's hardly anyone to say anything but the situation turns out tht people become/want things only for themselves and become selfish they just want to love some people of their choice and hardly care for others when they could have equally loved everyone and wonder why they arn't happy... they 4get tht everything thts created will end and there's just 1 reality which never changes and was there before creation and created everything, one tht has no end and thts God, without beginning, without ends, beyond all forms all colors, just cud recall some of the qualities mentioned by the Guru and we become so much engrossed in the beauty of the house tht we 4get our origin and purpose... and funny situation is people start thinking its their house their life there party and they have to do everything as much enjoyment or achievement in this life in this party as they can and tend to become selfish or end up hurting others in the process of their happiness... (as they have gone far away from the reality) tht its not possible for them to think beyond it... and farther they go away from the source the more sad and lonely they become... when happiness and fulfillment lyes within themselves, everywhere... the most worldly happiness i hav felt is wen i cud make some1 else happy and the worst feeling is wen because of me some1 else becomes sad or unhappy... or if i do hurt some1... otherwise the feeling which i have wen i hav been lucky enough or the beautiful moments wen i cud feel things without boundations or in tht state you can say spiritual phase is so beautiful tht i don't hav words to describe it... wish tht moment cud stretch for ever i don't feel like asking anything or wanting anything its like all the wishes and dreams has been fulfilled... tht they are very small compared to tht moment... i kno no drug or nothing else is capable of giving me so much happiness or is capable of taking me so high... but unfortunately my situation is like even after knowing things i tend to make mistakes, at times i do act selfish, wht my grandfather use to say "haath deepak kooayn(well) geray" tend to be apt for me... God's goona say dude u knew and still u mess up... so i try not to mess up and normally like and respect everyone and there are hardly any conflicts in my life, i see conflicts in others life and at times it become difficult for me to explain things to others but, this is life the creator, one who has created things is looking after it as well and he surely does a lot better job then i guess i can do so i don't even worry now... just be happy.. the minute you ar ready to scarifice knowing tht all the relations from mother father to friends to lovers to wifes will end with this life anf if u get a rebirth everything will start again new parents new friends new family new wife new commitments... and if even in tht life u live the same way guess tht life is wasted again n i guess (its quite futile to hate or waste the life in these things) unless guess God himself show mercy and wants the other to be pulled out as i have realised tht if i think tht m so capable, i cud pull myself n can kno all things and can get out of it... i cannot... unless rab khud mehar kare... so i can humbly prey tht he/ she might get peace soon and live life happily in God's HUKUM...

so i guess u can live happily love as many people as you can sacrifice as much as you can respect everyone as there's no one above or below you, every 1 is equal... from a kid to an extreme adult... everyone should be respected and least you can do is to accept the God's HUKUM and be happy... at times i feel tht people actually have nothing in their hands, as whtever the God has decided, will happen and only, the one, who is more powerful then God can change n thts not happening... so things ends here on him there's nothing without him.. i guess the poeple he blessed with fighting they fight, the ones he has blessed with loving they love, the ones he has blessed with working they work, the ones he has blessed with sleeping they sleep, the ones he has blessed with his name keep praying and the ones he has blessed with having faith in him have faith in him and the ones he has blessed with not believing does not believe in him God i can keep on writing his qualities feel like they never gonna end and someone like me he has blessed with thinking, thinks... so if you get something from here in normal language good otherwise the best source of knowledge is guru, guess when the time to learn comes people learn... so i want to end everything on him as i cannot think anything without him or beyond him he just in everything i can think about, n i guess m not gonna describe everything thts not possible as well... because his region is limit less, like him... so here i stop...

God bless waheguru...

Desh"

Decisions....

I was watching a movie the other day...One of the characters in the movie said that every decision has a reason. Go, find out the reason behind 'her' decision. That made me think & so I realized that it was so true. People may act as dynamic as they want and talk about deciding in shortest possible time but the truth is that no one decides on anything without any reason attached to it. Now the reason in itself maybe insignificant but since a decision involves two or more choices there is always a decider, a reason to pick one choice over the other; and it may be just pure bias or a choice based on past experiences but the 'Reason' is a sure thing. 

There is a reason to deciding to write about this now even though the Movie in question was watched last weekend & No, its not lack of time. The reason is a conversation I had with someone last night. Let's call him/her X. The conversation started on the usual light note discussing career, office politics and all and ended up on life's bad face. The direct result of our decisions. How does decisions affect our relations. Should we be even analysing and deciding about relations? X was so distressed that it felt like he/she needs someone to be close and let him/her vent out.  And all I could offer was silence.I didn't have answer to even one of the many Why's that conversation descended upon. Why do people have to weigh & analyse relations? Why does it happen only to me? Why does it have to be like the way it is? Why can't we be the way we want to be? and biggest of them all that me made me feel like crying, Why do we have to make decisions for our relations. I guess many of you might have guessed who I was talking to but that is not point, and it is insigificant, especially when the questions were so valid. Now it may sound rhetorical but believe me, it is very disturbing.I wanted to be so with him/her at that time but it all ended up in a silent closing of the call. Couldn't get my mind off it later.

Was my decision about you know what right? Shouldn't I be making choices that I made? Was it wrong to chose one of the two?

Still looking for answers...

Quite upset...Bursting !!!

I am truly upset with whatever happened yesterday at office... Some bloody rumors and I am blamed for it whereas I wasn't even bloody involved in it... I know its too many "bloodys" in a sentence but that is how I feel at this time... Bloody couldn't sleep well due to this F$%(%^ crappy thing going on in office....I think I will...I don't know what will I do... It seems so out of control... I am going to......aaaarrrgggghhhhhh!!! I bloody can't even say what I am thinking right now....

With these kind of people and confronting attitude, now I seriously think that this process is not going anywhere but the dumps....Its the decline of great Core... The best process of all is turning out to be a nightmare... and its all due to some poor vision and extremely short sighted approach... I mean what are people thinking...Seems like its in trend to consider the other party a fool and a complete idiot... Be it internal or external...I am not sure if I want to work here anymore...I am extremely disappointed with the way things turned out to be...Seems like the bubble has finally burst... I don't want to move out.. I like the place the people around me..but it's the atmosphere these days that is getting on my nerves now.... I don't think I would stay if I have the opportunity to move.... God knows what or where I might land up... I think it's time to look for alternatives.... PR here I come....

Shanti Shanti Shanti.....

Dost...Friends..Us...

I have just watched Dil Chahta hai.... I don't know how many times have I watched it....It doesn't make any difference to watchability....great re-playability... There are other movies with greater replay value but this one has got what no other movie has...It's got a different Point of View of friendship..... A highly realistic take on it... There has been other movies based on friendship as well but this one views it on a really different tangent... One specific thing that makes it different from other movies like sholay, dosti & Jaane bhi do yaaro is that it doesn't projects a friendship where a friends are under constant obligation of one another.  It floats on the basic premise of friendship based on understanding and intents...

For example, Aamir khan dunks Saif when he tells his girlfriend that Saif wasn't with him... but Saif doesn't react on it too much....Just a grunt and that's it....Why? Even though that made Saif breakup with his Girl doesn't make him dump Aamir...because he understands that that's how he is... This and other such demos of Mutual understanding is what makes it different from lot off other 'dosti' movies... 

It is not Zen to think that great successful friendship has lasted on the fundamental rule of understanding and giving room to each other.... Thinking about which also takes my thoughts to another dimension...Marriage.... Aren't good successful marriages based on the same fundamental premise... Can a marriage, be it love or arranged, be successful without these two things... Can any relation for that matter.... 

Then there is another essential but highly overlooked ingredient to this...Effort..yep you need to put in effort to conduct any relation.... It could be making an  effort to call by taking time off your "busy" schedule or visiting the people.... and its our own responsibility to make that effort. Its NOT OK to wait for other one to do it... I can't wait for him or her to make this effort... It might never happen...He could be thinking the same.... I can't risk it.. So I do it... People ask me sometime...Why do I have to do it...Why can't they come over.... But I tell them that someone has top make the effort to carry the relation... I chose to say carry the relation because that's How I look at it... I don't say its a burden that we carry, but I just say that we carry it.... 'Coz its our own conscious decision to continue a relation...Even blood relations are not spared of this choice...I have seen people not talking to their own brothers and sisters...This doesn't mean that they did not earlier as well. Somewhere down the line they decided to not to keep any relation with each other.... I have limited myself to a customary acknowledgment with some people who are related to me in some way... just a hello and that's where it all ends... 

I think I am digging too deep into this at the time....We will talk about it some other time... May be next time...:-) I have to make an effort to drag myself to market...I need some essentials...

Go ahead... Make your effort today... Don't under estimate it...Its a great thing to do...
Make some effort...

Assurance...

This is going to be a short post...I don't want to say anything this time... I just want to assure you guyz that its not on mind actively anymore... A lot of water has passed under the bridge... I chose to say 'actively' because I don't think I can just wipe it out but it can definitely be phased out... So coming back to point...

Sharirik kamzori kamzori nahi hundi...Mansik kamzori nahi honi chahidi...

And I am mentally as strong  as I was back in days...Anytime..Anyday...Anywhere....

The topic stands closed.... Peace to all....