I was reading this article the other day and came across something that struck me as bizarre. It denounced calling your dad "Yaar" during conversations. It was worded as if it was utterly disrespectful and one of the deadly sins. Baba Bulleh Shah has famously said
ਦਿਲ ਵਿਚ ਤਾਰ ਇਸ਼ਕ਼ ਦੀ ਵੱਜਦੀ, ਨਾਲੇ ਵੱਜਦੀ ਖ੍ਨ੍ਜਰੀ ਏ,
ਬੁਲੇਆ ਨਚ ਕੇ ਯਾਰ ਮਨਾ ਲੈਣਾ, ਭਾਂਵੇਂ ਲੋਕ ਕਹਣ ਭੈੜੀ ਕੰਜਰੀ ਏ
And if calling the supreme lord Yaar is not disrespectful than I don't understand the fuss behind anything else. I agree that there is a certain level of respect required while conversing with your parents but I don't see the reason for creating havoc over the usage of Yaar for as long as the respect s maintained. After all it symbolizes a better acceptance and understanding. Any ideas???
ਦਿਲ ਵਿਚ ਤਾਰ ਇਸ਼ਕ਼ ਦੀ ਵੱਜਦੀ, ਨਾਲੇ ਵੱਜਦੀ ਖ੍ਨ੍ਜਰੀ ਏ,
ਬੁਲੇਆ ਨਚ ਕੇ ਯਾਰ ਮਨਾ ਲੈਣਾ, ਭਾਂਵੇਂ ਲੋਕ ਕਹਣ ਭੈੜੀ ਕੰਜਰੀ ਏ
And if calling the supreme lord Yaar is not disrespectful than I don't understand the fuss behind anything else. I agree that there is a certain level of respect required while conversing with your parents but I don't see the reason for creating havoc over the usage of Yaar for as long as the respect s maintained. After all it symbolizes a better acceptance and understanding. Any ideas???
I don't know what the article was about but i do agree with the statement that you have mentioned in the blog. It was worded as utterly disrespectful because it is a disrespectful word (from a certain point of view)
ReplyDeletePeople think or take this word to call friends. So, for people YAAR = FRIEND. But in reality that's not how it should be.
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There is no relation to what Baba Bulle Shah ji said to calling your dad "YAAR" (that's what i think).
Coming back to the word "Yaar". Technically the the guy who's got a mistress apart from his wife is the Yaar of the mistress. He is the husband to the women he's married to but the yaar of the mistress and the mistress was/is called Kanjri.
Read the above verse Baba Bulle Shah ji and it will make more sense.
I guess rest you know what I mean and you got the idea of what i want to say.